Have you ever gone up to someone you were getting to know and asked them, "what kind of music do you like?"
& you get those people that say, "Oh, I like all kinds of music" Oh, yes, that makes them soooooo cosmopolitan, lmao.
I WON'T tell you that I like all kinds of music.
I dislike 95% of rap music (and no, I won't call it "hip-hop", damnit) and I despise most Country Western music.
Between the ages of 13 or 14 to 18 and then a # of years during college, I would have to wake up at 5 fuckin, o' clock in the morning and one of my family elders would add insult to injury and put Country Western music on. YUCK! That's all I can say, to all their dumb lyrics and even WORSE melodies.
If you want real music, look at the pictues below and there you are !
Hard work, persistence, not spending too much, being a decent father, keep trying inspite of so much in the way. Now let's hope the plutocrats not dominate Washington and the statehouses.
Friday, December 17, 2010
Friday, December 10, 2010
thoughts while working FAST
Since October, the biggest thing that has happened to me is the series of events – past, present, & future – that I can say the least about. I befriended someone who I met a long time ago, and we have renewed our friendship. My life has been enriched, and the future shows some optimism.
The dynamics between the parent and the adolescent is an interesting dynamic. There are stories of parents that have to limit the independence a 15 year old wants or even tries to demand. With our son, Andy, it’s different. We welcome the independence that he sometimes shows. He is an upright, conventional benevolent soul!
I’m contemptuous toward indiscriminate drug use, but Andy hates it even more. He worries about his tragic uncle who will go to prison later this month for drunk driving. & come Dec. 15, when my brother has his trial, we all hope he pleads guilty.
Getting back to Andy, he diligently informs us every single time he stays late @ school for an after-school program. For the 2nd yr. in a row, his art teacher is Andy’s biggest backer and is glad he’s in the Art Club. We don’t worry about where he is b/c MB’s hospital, and my law firm are both leaning hard on both of us to come through during these trying times. Our jobs have demanded our leadership and experienced savvy we’ve learned for decades. Se, we didn’t have time to do Andy’s birthday party invitations and told him he better work on them. Andy’s party is Dec. 11, and this week, 1 morning when his Ma was already hard at work as a nurse, I discovered Andy had done nothing about his invitations.
Well, this was the 1st time he made birthday invitations. So, on that franatic, fast paced morning, while Ted and Bri prepared for school and left, Andy did the same, and I taught him to make a proper invitation. The 4 elements are as follows:
Andy executed those instructions well. He made honor roll during the 1st quarter and we’re proud inspite the number of obstacles Andy has faced. He struggles w/ Typing (or whatever the hell they call it now when you learn how to use a computer keyboard in quick fashion, I think OFHS calls it “microcomputing”). But Andy struggles just like both of his parents struggled in typing. I think that’s the only C+ or B- Maribeth even earned in high school as she earned a full 4-yr. scholarship for nursing at Lewis University in Romeoville. & I got a mere C in typing my freshman year. I could only type 45 words per minute by the time the course ended in the spring but now w/ 33 yrs. of typing, computing/keyboarding, whatever the hell you wanna call it, I can type a better-than-average 60 words per minute.
The dynamics between the parent and the adolescent is an interesting dynamic. There are stories of parents that have to limit the independence a 15 year old wants or even tries to demand. With our son, Andy, it’s different. We welcome the independence that he sometimes shows. He is an upright, conventional benevolent soul!
I’m contemptuous toward indiscriminate drug use, but Andy hates it even more. He worries about his tragic uncle who will go to prison later this month for drunk driving. & come Dec. 15, when my brother has his trial, we all hope he pleads guilty.
Getting back to Andy, he diligently informs us every single time he stays late @ school for an after-school program. For the 2nd yr. in a row, his art teacher is Andy’s biggest backer and is glad he’s in the Art Club. We don’t worry about where he is b/c MB’s hospital, and my law firm are both leaning hard on both of us to come through during these trying times. Our jobs have demanded our leadership and experienced savvy we’ve learned for decades. Se, we didn’t have time to do Andy’s birthday party invitations and told him he better work on them. Andy’s party is Dec. 11, and this week, 1 morning when his Ma was already hard at work as a nurse, I discovered Andy had done nothing about his invitations.
Well, this was the 1st time he made birthday invitations. So, on that franatic, fast paced morning, while Ted and Bri prepared for school and left, Andy did the same, and I taught him to make a proper invitation. The 4 elements are as follows:
4 elements
It should answer the question 1. What? You’re invited to Andy’s birthday party
2. Where? Place, street address, town of party
3. When? Date, time, how long party lasts
4. A phone number of host in case invitee’s have questions. Thankfully, Andy knows where his phone is b/c he’s fielding the calls, not his parents.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
results of Championship that Ted played in
Ted's football team, the CHIEFS, was in the citywide Super Bowl in the SENIOR
League.
It was the 1st SUPER BOWL in over 15, 20 yrs. to go into overtime for the
Senior League. The Chiefs lost 8-0. We did very well on defense as we did all
year. The game ended tied 0-0.
The problem was that the team we played, the Jets worked harder, both BEFORE
THE GAME and during the game. They practiced most of the year but ESPECIALLY
BEFORE THE SUPER BOWL, 3 times a week. We practiced twice a week w/ only an
hour long practice the 2nd time, Saturday.
They worked extra hard on their blocking, we worked hard but not on blocking
but doing some passing plays and running the offense some in practice.
When the game occurred, the JETS put many guys on the line and pressured our
quarterback. the one who led the Senior League in scoring. There's a picture
of him w/ Ted herein that I just uploaded. He had so
little time, he couldn't run for 100 yards like he did in many games this year.
He threw passes that he did well and completed. But it was a windy, cold
November day, and MOST OF HIS PASSES JUST WERE OFF THE MARK, if he wasn't sacked
by the Jets.
No offense by OUR TEAM, b/c there was a lack of blocking. The Jets worked
hard during practice, came out very angry at us beating them twice in 2 games
(in 2 games we beat them by a combined score of 40-6). They wanted revenge at
the 2 times we beat them. They got revenge on their touchdown in overtime. We
had great defense, but our offense just could not match the anger, the fire and
the many guys they put on the line against our decent offensive line. Our coach
exorted and encouraged our line and they played better, but it was not enough.
We moved the ball 100some yards today BUT WE NEVER MOVED IN FOR A
TOUCHDOWN.
Ted is upset and doesn't even want to play next year. But I hope he gets
over the bad disappointment he suffers. I want to get him a weight set for
XMAS. I want him to get stronger b/c he will play more than this past season.
But he obviously can't play if he stops playing football. It really stung and hurt him to see the
opposing team cheering, screaming and hoisting a giant, 5 ft. trophy of wood and
gold up high over their head. As assistant coach, I told the
entire team that you learn the most not when you win but when you suffer a
loss. When life hands you
disappointment and pain, the hope is you are better from
that.
Remember when you've seen instances of that in your own life as you look
back????
I really hope he gets over that loss today. We won 7 games; we were
undefeated during the regular season. We won the 1st playoff round and came in
2nd place. There should be no shame in that, should there??
Friday, November 12, 2010
quick little bits of info
- still very, very busy at work. I have to get ready for when the department goes from 6 people to only one person - ME. Last year, was rough b/c a couple of the clerks didn't do much before they left for 2-3 weeks of law school finals. Hey, I loved the overtime and the extra money was essential for Christmas, but there was some stress involved. Plus, there was the stress during that time of MB's cancer. Thank God she healed well from that.
- I am woefully old compared to the law clerks. Hell, I'm f*-k--g old enough to be there father! ! I'm worried about my high school son and my other son's championship game this Sunday, and they're worried about their law school's ranking in the nation. It's fun working with them, yet things are so emotionless and platonic, that something funny happened. I just trained this 20something woman to be a law clerk, and she's from LA. She sometimes burps but with her mouth closed. None of the other clerks do this, and hers are pretty audible. I just laugh to myself and think, "There's a possibility those clerks could be talking behind her back"
- I am absolutely loving how well my teams are doing in fantasy football. By accident, there was an auction (with fake money of course) to get your players. By accident, I paid too much for the kicker and was called a "moron" ....... & here I am in 2nd place. They have a chat part of the league so one of these days if I keep winning, I'm going to write, "That dumbass that bid to high for Mason Crosby" (me) "is doing pretty well".
- Here, the economy is rough like it is most parts of the world, but I was ecstatic to hear that my older brother got a new job working in the warehouse at this store that sells excellent suits and other clothing.
- There's just certain times you can't help........even if you have good information. The women at our law firm have a bathroom that is small and cramped on our floor (that's what I was told, I don't frequent the ladies' room).. We used to own the floor BELOW ours and had a cafeteria down there (not a very good one). We also continue to have access to the bathrooms down there b/c the males can't use the private male rest room that employees like I can use. So they go down the floor below.
The reticence is as follows: I WON'T tell new female clerks about the nice bathroom. It just makes me sound weird if I knew one was better than the other. I mean I hear it from the secretaries who have been here for 10 yrs or more, and like I said, you can see into the nicer one how clean and spacious it is. It's on a right angle so you can't see the whole thing, of course.
But, here is one instance I would like to help, but I just can't.
Saturday, November 06, 2010
a fun fall......
During the regular season, Ted's team went 7-0. He starts as right defensive tackle. The Chiefs were a perfect 7-0 during the regular season and allowed only 16 points in 7 games!! Their offense led by quarterback Jake Olson scored 169 points.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
quick hits for what's been going on
Here's a number of things that have been going on:
http://entrecard.com/blog/?p=1593
- It's been very hectic at work. I trained a new law clerk this past Friday. Instead of working for 2 lawyers, I've been working for 4 lawyers.
- Ted's team finished the regular season and next week is the playoffs. The mighty CHIEFS finished the regular season 7 wins and 0 losses! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
- Money struggles, wondering about the future and what's going to happen and where I'll work with concerns at the law firm.
- Not much time for other things like writing for Wikipedia, but I read a good self improvement book. They said that "pride is the bastard son of dignity" It's a good distinction, b/c pride will hurt your interaction with others while dignity does NOT.
http://entrecard.com/blog/?p=1593
Sunday, October 17, 2010
when a SON has been wronged (2 parts)
Ted learned to ride a bike, and he became proficient riding in a small area in our suburb. Rules stated he had to either leave it outside or carry it up 3 flights of stairs. I made it very clear to him that I was not going to carry the bike upstairs for him on a regular basis or any-kind-of-basis!!
He had a lock for the bike. Did he use it right everytime?...........................................2 months later his bike is missing and the lock cable left there at the condo's bike stalls. About the same time, Maribeth started talking about a homeless person walking around the neighborhood, and that he set up a shack in a neighboring Christian church near our place, a little less than a mile. Then around the same time, Ted accidentally put a scratch on top of the seat of his bike.
The cops are notified after they both see him again. The thief took down his shack by a church and set up near a sub sanwich place. Ted and Jake saw him while eating elsewhere with a group of friends, and Jake is still carrying his ole' Arizona hunting knife. Ted is much faster than he was when he 1st joined football
& I still buy Streetwise a way in which homeless can better themselves in Chicago.
please check out http://www.streetwise.org/magazine.html
He had a lock for the bike. Did he use it right everytime?...........................................2 months later his bike is missing and the lock cable left there at the condo's bike stalls. About the same time, Maribeth started talking about a homeless person walking around the neighborhood, and that he set up a shack in a neighboring Christian church near our place, a little less than a mile. Then around the same time, Ted accidentally put a scratch on top of the seat of his bike.
Then about a week later, Ted, Brianna & I went to Walgreens. As I stood in line, a man with salt & pepper (grey and black) hair rode up to Walgreens on a bike. I didn't think much of it. Then Brianna grabbed my shirt and whispered something unintelligible in my ear........."man.......bike.........Ted...." I nodded. He grabbed a candy and got in line behind us Brianna walked away from him.
He mentioned something about the penny I left in the change circle after I made the purchase.
"Don't need a penny", I replied and looked at his Army jacket.
"Yeah, well some of us do,"
ok I thought "take the change" I didn't say that but he looked at the penny as the cashier got it. At the same time, Brianna motioned and SUMMONED Ted to Walgreens' door and gave me a strong, hard stare.
As we walked to the car, she said, "HE stole Ted's BIKE! He rode in and I SAW THE SCRATCH ON TOP OF THE BIKESEAT !" She was smart enough not to say it loud and provoke a confrontation. Ted didn't hear Brianna and got in the car.
I told Ted that we had some bad news and hoped he would control his bad temper he received from both parents. We locked doors and with the Army guy and the bike already zoomed away from Walgreens, we told Ted
"If he needed the bike that bad, let him have it," Ted replied. I asked out loud how desperate is he? Maribeth quickly confirmed that he's pretty desperate, b/c he keeps away from our Pit Bull MINNIE.
We should all pray for him...........
PART 2
Early, this month, my 3 kids and Ted's best friend, Jake (of AZ) all go to my hometown west of Madison, WI. The Ithaca Fair occurs on Saturday, and we get there Friday night. As we are speeding north toward WI, Ted and Jake talk about the bike thief. Jake came from a bad part of a city in Arizona, and he always carries a knife 6" blade and only a few inches shorter than the one evil "Wakefield" is carrying below.
Jake is older and quicker than Ted. He gave Ted a knife but Ted is like me & hates a ton of violence. So both of them were in the car fantasizing what they would do to him on the upcoming Halloween. Ted mentioned throwing stuff at his shock. Jake jokingly mentioned cutting deep into his neck. So, I said, "Wait Jake, he's stronger than you, so if that don't work, then what?"
"Well, Ted would stab him in the ribs and puncture a lung!" Jake replied.
"YEAH" Ted said with GUSTO!
"Ummmmm, Ted?"
"Yeah Dad?"
"If you were to puncture a lung how would you do it? Cross ways or hold the knife up & down?" I asked............
"I'd take that knife and drive it down into him with everything I had!" Ted replied.
"FOOL!! YOU both would be dead because there is NO WAY IN HELL WILL A KNIFE GO THROUGH RIBS WITH THE BLADE UP & DOWN" I yelled in my most Germanic voice, "YOU BOTH WOULD BE DEAD!"
"Well maybe I could stab him in the nuts after Ted......." Jake slowly and tentatively replied.
"YOU BOTH WON'T BE THAT STUPID, RIGHT!!!!!?"
YES, they said at the same time. We talked about the virtues of running in different directions. The cops are notified after they both see him again. The thief took down his shack by a church and set up near a sub sanwich place. Ted and Jake saw him while eating elsewhere with a group of friends, and Jake is still carrying his ole' Arizona hunting knife. Ted is much faster than he was when he 1st joined football
& I still buy Streetwise a way in which homeless can better themselves in Chicago.
please check out http://www.streetwise.org/magazine.html
Saturday, September 25, 2010
some people would like to stay anonymous
"....Everybody knows the good guys lost
Everybody knows the fight was fixed
The poor stay poor, the rich get rich
That's how it goes
Everybody knows ........." by Leonard Cohen from the song "Everybody Knows"
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It was toward the tailend of my shift when I felt, emotionally, that the bottom fell out; a feeling of despair crashed on me again. My political party would lose in November, 2010.
I might as well talk about what is bothering me. Same old shit about me not having money. In this instance, I decided not to go to this party w/ co-workers, because of no money and don't think it's a particularly good idea to live beyond my modest means. I wanted to go to her party, but I just couldn't !
Everybody knows the fight was fixed
The poor stay poor, the rich get rich
That's how it goes
Everybody knows ........." by Leonard Cohen from the song "Everybody Knows"
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It was toward the tailend of my shift when I felt, emotionally, that the bottom fell out; a feeling of despair crashed on me again. My political party would lose in November, 2010.
I might as well talk about what is bothering me. Same old shit about me not having money. In this instance, I decided not to go to this party w/ co-workers, because of no money and don't think it's a particularly good idea to live beyond my modest means. I wanted to go to her party, but I just couldn't !
But that wasn’t what frustrated me the most. No, it was the frustration and despair that there are far too few people seeing what the real cause of the recession has been. There’s far too few people who know what’s really needed to get us out of the recession.
There’s so many greedy bad people who no one knows about (the billionaire Koch Brothers come to mind immediately. & you don’t know about the Koch Brothers, do you? I can't blame you for not knowing about them. They are very happy you don’t know about them. If you were polluting the planet would you want everyone to know who you are???!!??), and far too few people realize the devastation they have wrought, not only to the economy, but to the environment. They create dangerous workplaces, ignore laws that are on the books. Most of the time they don’t get caught. When their workers get hurt and they do get caught, they shrug their shoulders glibly while they get a wrist slap. They settle their fine at a few million, and they are worth tens of billions. Really! Think about it.
Most of you make less than $100,000. If you get a parking ticket, do you feel like your whole financial future is going to crash down? The $25 ticket you pay is about how painful it is for them when they pollute rivers and maim workers for having shoddy, dangerous workplaces. Remember, if they are sued in a court of law, they have the best lawyers in the business, and they don’t lose trials, they negotiate relatively painless parking-ticket-like settlements.
What a wonderful world we live in. Reading about people like the Koch Bros. making money at the expense of others. Hearing how they paid for the Republican takeover in Congress.
Watching them stay filthy rich
Watching them not giving a damn about the people they hurt working for them as they make billions. They are not only NOT PUNISHED, but richly rewarded. Do you realize over 10 people died last year in April, 2010 in the odious oil spill. Do the rich who owned that oil well really care, or were they too busy blaming the 2nd company that owned and maintained the oil well??? Think about it ! !
Where’s the justice?
Friday, September 17, 2010
Words to parent by.....
The day after Andy (our 1st child) was born, I went to the hospital gift store, and lo & behold, I found the "Parents' Creed" and immediately bought it and it's been our refrigerator ever since. Here it is:
If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with
acceptance and friendship,
he learns to find Love in the world.
If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with
acceptance and friendship,
he learns to find Love in the world.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
10 years ago
I can't help but think about what happened to me 10 years ago. The Wednesday after Labor Day in 2000, I started working at Nolan Law Group ( http://www.nolan-law.com/ ). They not only do the standard personal injury cases (like car accidents) and workers' compensation cases, but also aviation disasters. The premise in a aviation disaster case is that an airline tells you before you fly with them that they will get you to point A to point B safely. When they don't do that, they don't do their job, and many times, it's due to allowing airplane parts to deteriorate and that's when crashes occur. Thankfully, that doesn't happen very often.
I remember the first assignment that I had there was to help with their work on a case where a jet plane went down in April, 2000 in the Philippines. The airline bought a 737 that had been laying in the AZ desert for years and there had been damage to the plane before it flew in the Philippines. Anyway, the air crash in the Philippines was the worst in their history. I was told to talk to one of the provincial governors there which was a thrill for me; it's certainly not something you do everyday.
I improved as a paralegal, and I learned a lot at Nolan Law Group. I loved my office because it had a window with a small view of Lake Michigan. I miss that view :( ! Oh well, I am paid more now than I was when I worked there. I have more responsibility.
Still, I am very thankful I had the opportunity to work at Nolan Law Group. I learned so much from one of the paralegals there. He was the best paralegal I ever knew! Mike basically ran the workers compensation department there, and I'm sure it was a big loss (in many ways) when he died of a heart attack a few years ago. He was not even that old (only a few years older than me), but when you smoke, you deal with some big health disadvantages.
One of the big things that really helped is that when I applied as a paralegal at other firms, all my potential bosses knew about Nolan Law Group. The fact that I worked there for awhile helped make my resume stand out.
Friday, September 03, 2010
Maribeth got on TV !
Plus, we were all real proud of Maribeth, b/c she was on the 10:00 news last night!!!!! As I told some of you already, she works at a very big hospital, Loyola Univ. Med. Center. They are using robotic doctors. A robot goes down the hall into a patient's room. & like a teletubby, there's a TV on their belly, and that's a doctor who speaks to a patient. They say the robot is very instrumental in rapid response, b/c if a patient is going bad and into a near lethal condition, the robo-doc can get to the patient's room quickly and take the patients blood pressure, run tests on the patient and give the doctor info that will tell him which drugs or which treatment to use.
So anyway, the 10:00 news in the Medical Feature series showed the robo Doc going into the patient's room and there was Maribeth "in the flesh" standing next to the patient. They showed her several times in fact. She was clearly happy and proud and quipped, "well there's my 3 min. of fame". She does not enjoy being a nurse, but I asked her if her being on TV as a nurse made working at Loyola more worth it and she said yes.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
a little progress...
I think I lost 5 lbs. I'm not sure if I did, b/c I'm not sure how accurate our scale is. It said I was like 244, but that seems too good to be true. But it was nice to see the scale needle go to the left with a weight loss. I'm not sure why I lost the weight, but I'll take good news anytime I get it (for sure)!! It also makes me happier that my oldest son has noticeably started to lose weight, too. (Walking to school has really helped him lose it!! :) ). I have been watching what I eat and do portion management. I think that fact that the cupboards have been pretty bare due to lack of $$ helped a lot, MORE than I want to admit!
Ahh, the blessings due to lack of money...............I do remember Saturday night going to the refrigerator and just shutting the door with no food in my hand, b/c there was nothing worth eating. I even remember drinking a glass of water. That's a damn sight better than a malt!! Long ago, the pattern of eating had been established. Mon. - Fri., I either stay at the same weight or lose some weight. During the weekdays, I eat 2 meals and a light lunch. The weekend is a different story; snacking at midnight is not uncommon. Weight is often gained, undoing the hard work of the weekdays.
Ahh, the blessings due to lack of money...............I do remember Saturday night going to the refrigerator and just shutting the door with no food in my hand, b/c there was nothing worth eating. I even remember drinking a glass of water. That's a damn sight better than a malt!! Long ago, the pattern of eating had been established. Mon. - Fri., I either stay at the same weight or lose some weight. During the weekdays, I eat 2 meals and a light lunch. The weekend is a different story; snacking at midnight is not uncommon. Weight is often gained, undoing the hard work of the weekdays.
The near future looks good for losing more weight. I am unsure when I'll be getting my car back, by the end of the week, hopefully. Today, I walked to the train station which was over a mile. I walked fast and sometimes ran because I only had 20 min. There was good news and bad news. The good news was I got there with one minute to spare. The bad news was that my shirt was literally soaked with sweat. Then, I had to ride a train full of passengers and work with co-workers. I sat by an attractive 20something. I subtly looked at her facial expressions to see if she could smell me. She dozed off....I don't think you can sleep if you smell something bad, right? Had I not put on anti-perspirant/deodorant I would have smelled like a repulsive mess!! I'm hoping I don't stink anyway. I get paid in 1 week and 5 hours, but it almost seems like it's a month or so away. The time might go by kinda fast but it seems like such a long time until I see money in my account again!!! I added up all the things that I will be spending my money on between September 7 - Sept 20. ...it's all bills of one kind or another. It really looks like I will have very very little money to spend on anything besides a bill. I wonder if things will be harder than the last 2 weeks. God forbid but it could be that way.
The only thing is, I'm close to getting rid of this credit card. I have less than $350 to pay on it, and then I'm going to cancel it. I planned on having it paid off by October or November. But along came 3 kids' public schoool tuition payments and CCD, and my plan was crushed. Hopefully by the end of the year it will be all GONE. When, I do pay it off, it's going to make paying the next 5 or 6 cards that much easier to pay off. Except for 1 credit cards, I have not spent any money on the other credit cards b/c I'm doing a debt consolidation program. On 1 of the cards, my TARGET card is 0% interest, which is unbelievable, I know. The other cards range from 5% -9%. The interest is very low, so I have been making progress on my credit card debt. But I have to be really smart and I have to be really patient. hopefully in 2 yrs. the credit card situation can be much better, and I can afford a used car to buy.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Andy starts high school !
I registered Andy for high school yesterday, and he's beginning high school as I write this! Two years ago, our school district wanted to pass a property tax hike to better pay for school expenses. It was defeated. So, the school came up with ingenious ways to charge parents extra money that they need. First of all, registration (which is charged at nearly every school) is a not-so-bad $125. Yet, it doubles because they charge a "workbook fee". Students are given workboods and since they write the answer right into the book, you can use the workbooks only once. So, now the cost is $250.
Then, the high school passed a rule that any student living within a mile and a half of the high school are NOT entitled to riding on the school bus unless they pay $150. When they asked me if I was paying for busing, I had to make an instant decision. We know with Andy reaching 200 lbs. (he's 5'9") this summer, that walking 1 1/4 miles to school (each way, to and from school) would be good for him. The idea of him walking over 11 miles a week sounds pretty good, actually. The only problem is when we get rain or storms, we'll have to drive him to school, and hopefully if it's storming after school either his mom or Matt, our nephew will bring him home.
The thing also is that Maribeth & I agree that we don't want to have Andy trudging to school in the snow and the weather being 0 degrees. Plus, we know that weather is unpredictable in the fall. So, we will save $50 if we wait until October 1 to have Andy use the bus.
I was also not happy that they did not schedule Andy for a gym class. I am going to ask about this, but I already know the answer. They'll say, "since your son is in special ed class and takes academic subjects the rest of the time, there is no opportunity for him to be in gym." That's not right, but I don't know much I can do to stop this.
Wednesday, August 04, 2010
finally a little justice !
My credit rating is in the toilet b/c in 2003 at the start of the divorce process we declared bankruptcy. But there are a number of inaccuracies in my credit report which makes my credit rating even worse.
One thing is that someone committed identity theft against me 5 yrs. ago before I moved back with Maribeth. They made a purchase at JC Penney for just under $600. They were even sloppy b/c they used the street address for Midlothian (where I lived while I was separated) and the town where I live now as the customer's address.
So, I was really harassed for 3 yrs. about this debt. I told them I wouldn't pay for it after a 1 hr. long conversation. I followed it up w/ a letter from one of the attorneys I know. So they stopped demanding money from me. HOWEVER, they reported to all the credit agencies that I had a debt that was never paid. That naturally hurt my credit rating even more.
So, I joined Experian for a little bit of money and protested the bogus debt. There were about 3 other things wrong too. Another thing I pointed out which was the truth was that JC Penney never gave me a credit card after I declared bankruptcy, and even if I wanted to, they would have never given me a credit card! That was a good point but not as conclusive as the halfassed address mixed from 2 different towns.
I just found out that Experian finished their investigation and said I was right. They are deleting the bogus bad debt. So my credit rating will improve.
One thing that bothers me is that they weren't sure about one of the other inaccuracies. I haven't worked w/ hospital for 3 yrs. and have been w/ my law firm for 5. None of the credit card companies have the right employer I am with and say I make less moeny than I do (all of which also makes my credit rating lower). I told them about the fact I was w/ my law firm. They told me they might change it but they might not b/c usually credit reporting agencies get the employment info through other means not the person like me. Heck, I was willing to give them a paycheck stub, you can't get better proof than that!!
Friday, July 23, 2010
dreadful people...............
I was inspired last fall to become an Administrator of this Christian subgroup. I call it “subgroup”, because it’s one of thousands of groups that make up this big Internet website that helps people with mental illness. My illness, as many of you already know, is that I suffer depression.
My experience at this website has been extremely good, and I have been there for 2 years. The group has grown like “wildfire” and has hundreds of thousands of members and is growing. It’s in every continent except Antarctica, and I haven’t yet run into anyone from Asia but that doesn’t mean they aren’t there. What really gets me down are instances where my ex and a few people in rare events are cynical towards me and don’t understand me. Yet, the people at this website “get me”, they understand, I help them, and they help me. The whole inspiration for the website is that there are so many people suffering from mental illness, and there isn’t enough money to pay for the psychiatric healing all these people need. Moreover, one can even go as far as to say that there are not enough psychiatrists and psychologists to help all those needing help. This is especially true in rural areas!! There’s been a number of newspaper articles written about this. & this is what inspired the website and drives it to new heights! It's possible, some day that we will be a million strong at this website.
The group has picked me up when I’ve been down so often that I just can’t thank the many friends I have enough!! Also, they give great advice; sometimes even spiritual advice which is often the best advice to get!!
Well as administrator at Christian Fellowship, I’m happy that I have improved the site a little bit. Unfortunately, I had to kick this one person out. First, she spoke meanly about someone else in the Fellowship group (it’s “Fellowship”, not “Be Mean Group”). So, I deleted her reply. From there it went all down hill. She created new fake identities so that more than one person would be criticizing my administrative skills. That’s a direct violation of our website’s policy!! Then she told lies about me and I just said, “enough”, and I kicked her out. She had her friend then talk about how sorry she was, and that she was actually this really good person that has saved souls by proselytizing.
But this woman wasn’t finished with me. I made her more angry! First, she looked through her Friends list. If any of them were friends with me, she wrote them a note saying you can be friends with me or you can be friends with Vince. BUT YOU CAN’T BE FRIENDS WITH BOTH, MAKE A DECISION BY THE END OF THE DAY!
Then she spent hours examining 6 months worth of my Journals that I kept at the website. Like a politician, she wanted to dig up dirt on me. She found one where I was upset and was venting (damn, if you can’t vent at your mental health website, where can you vent??). So, she copied and pasted it and spread it around to a number of people with the comment, “Wow, that guy sure is a Christian chap…..look at how he swears.” Let me tell you something, God is not going to send us to hell for swearing (unless it relates to the 2nd Commandment), He is going to send us to hell for not helping our fellow man, for lying, cheating, hurting others, etc. Further, the Bible tells us he will not send to Hell people who ask for His forgiveness. I responded to this by restricting access to my Journal.
Well, the worst was yet to come (& she may not even be finished with me, who knows?). Last spring, a woman in Christian Fellowship committed suicide. Before she died, she criticized one of our members. The person she criticized was devastated and thought she caused her death. We had a series of e-mails back and forth as I counseled her. I finally convinced her that, no, she wasn’t responsible for the person who committed suicide. Somehow, the very same person digging dirt in my Journals got wind of the suicide, so she told someone that I drove her to her death. Luckily, the person she told said that she was absolutely wrong. Thank God for good people!
I’m strong, and I definitely don’t regret banning her. She is developing a terrible reputation inspite of the fact that she is sick too (she suffers Parkinson’s). I will not let one bad person ruin the beautiful experiences I have had and all my dear friends there at that website.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
some quotes
People are measured by the challenges they overcome given the resources available.
A pat on the back is only a few centimeters away from a kick in the pants.
Murphy's Golden Rule is that he (or she) with the Gold makes the Rules.
Murphy's 1st rule is that anything that can go wrong will go wrong.
Peter's Principle is that in any company a person will rise and be promoted until he is incompetent at the higher position and stay there.
In a workplace, if you carry a legal pad and walk around looking buisnesslike you can walk anyplace at work premises.
When you drive a long distance, the speed and number of cars you pass is inversely proportional to the speed of the car you are stuck behind at the very end of your trip.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
it will do you some good
WE live life; we feel strongly about things, we work hard, & we learned many things............. but maybe sometimes we need to look at the other side of the coin.
Read this, it won't change your vote but it may do ya' some good.
Robert Creamer
Dirty Little Secrets the Republicans Don't Want You to Know
The Republicans have a set of dirty little (actually not so little) secrets they don't what you to know -- and certainly don't want you to think about when you go to the polls in November.
And the fact is that some of those secrets could provide Democrats with silver bullets this fall. But first let's recall the context.
Over the course of eight short years -- between 2000 and 2008 -- the Republicans methodically executed their plan to transform American society. They systematically transferred wealth from the middle class to the wealthiest two percent of Americans -- slashing taxes for the wealthy. They eviscerated the rules that held Wall Street, Big Oil and private insurance companies accountable to the public. They allowed and encouraged the recklessness of the big Wall Street banks that ultimately collapsed the economy and cost eight million Americans their jobs. They ignored exploding health care costs, tried to privatize Social Security, gave the drug companies open season to gouge American consumers and presided over a decline in real incomes averaging $2,000 per family. They entangled America in an enormously costly, unnecessary war in Iraq, pursued a directionless policy that left Afghanistan to fester, and sullied America's good name throughout the world.
Their economic policy of cutting taxes for the wealthy and deregulating big Corporations failed to create jobs. In fact, over his eight year term, George Bush's administration created exactly zero net private sector jobs. They inherited a Federal budget with surpluses as far as the eye could see and rolled up more debt than all of the previous Presidents in the over 200 years of American history. And in the end they left the economy in collapse.
This was not a disaster that could be remedied overnight. By taking bold action at the beginning of his administration, President Obama and the Democrats in Congress prevented the financial crisis from morphing into a Great Depression -- but the Republicans, some Democrats, and the powerful special interests have done everything they can to throw sand into the gears of change. Most importantly, they have stood in the way of providing enough economic stimulus to launch a robust, widespread economic recovery.
But notwithstanding Republican opposition, Obama, the Democrats and their progressive allies have -- after a century of trying -- finally passed health care reform allowing America to end its status as the only industrialized nation that did not provide health care as a right. They are on the brink of reining in the recklessness of the big Wall Street banks. And they have set the stage for massive long-term investments in economic growth and clean energy.
But it has been hard to pull the car out of the deep economic ditch and Americans are angry at the slow pace of economic recovery -- and also at the special interests that profited from their economic pain.
So the Republicans now have the audacity to argue that President Obama and the Democrats are somehow responsible for the hardships that they themselves created. In effect they want the election to be a referendum on whether the Democrats have mopped and swept fast enough cleaning up the mess that they created.
They will do everything they can to prevent America from focusing on the real choice before them in the fall elections -- a choice between going backward to the failed policies of the past that caused this catastrophe and a new direction that will create sustainable, long-term, bottom-up, widely shared economic growth. The real question before the country is whether it is willing to hand over the keys to the economy once again to the same gang that just caused the most serious economic pile up in 60 years.
That's where the dirty little secrets come in. It turns out that the leaders of the Republican Party have learned nothing from the reckless escapade that caused so much economic pain, and came perilously close to inflicting mortal wounds on the American economy.
They still actually believe -- despite what we have all just experienced -- that by "freeing" big oil, the insurance companies and Wall Street banks of the "burdens" of government accountability, that the plutocrats and the "invisible hand" of the market will lead American into the promised land of economic prosperity.
Some of the things they believe are not only dangerous to the economy, luckily they are also politically radioactive. And quite remarkably, many key Republicans are actually willing to say them out loud. Here are a few:
· Meet Congressman Paul Ryan. Ryan is the ranking Republican on the House Budget Committee. If the Republicans once again take control of the House, he will be the Chair of the Budget Committee. Ryan believes -- and says out loud -- that Medicare, one of the most popular Federal programs in history, should be abolished and replaced with vouchers for private insurance. Let's recall that one of the ways Republicans stirred up opposition to health insurance reform was by falsely accusing Democrats of wanting to cut Medicare. They convinced some unwitting seniors that "Government" should keep its hands off Medicare -- which is, of course, a "Government" program. Democrats need to make it crystal clear in this campaign that Republicans -- who opposed Medicare from its inception -- actually want to abolish the program and hand over control of health care for America's seniors to the same private insurance companies responsible for driving up rates three times faster than wages while their profits have exploded.
· Congressman John Boehner, the House Minority Leader, has endorsed another Ryan proposal to raise the retirement age of Social Security to 70 years old -- a proposal that might go over fine with a guy like Boehner who makes speeches for a living. But it won't be very popular at all with someone who has laid bricks, or run an earth mover, or waited tables for forty-five years.
· The whole Republican crew wants to resurrect the failed Bush proposal to "privatize" Social Security. The defeat of Bush's privatization plan was the turning point in the Bush Presidency. It was all downhill from there. Yet -- whether it's to pad the investment accounts of their friends on Wall Street or because they are "private markets uber alles true believers" -- the Republicans want to try it again. Only this time retirees won't have to work very hard to imagine what it would have been like if their Social Security checks had plummeted in value the way their 401K's did when the market collapsed just two years ago.
· The Republicans want to weaken and repeal the new law to rein in the recklessness of the big Wall Street banks. Most Republicans and Democrats voted to bail out the big banks to prevent a 1930's style market collapse. The difference is that Democrats supported legislation to rein in their recklessness -- that had cost 8 million Americans their jobs -- and assure that a bailout was never allowed to happen again. But with very few exceptions, the Republicans voted to a person against holding Wall Street accountable. Given a chance, they plan to team up with their pals on Wall Street to free them to return to their reckless ways at will. In fact, they told the titans of Wall Street as much in fundraising meetings, where those "masters of the Universe" were asked to ante up. Republicans claim to oppose more Wall Street bailouts, but they refuse to support legislation that would prevent one in the future and hold Wall Street accountable. That -- coupled with those big contributions from Wall Street -- is a position that is very difficult for average voters to swallow. In fact, the polling says it's down right toxic.
· Republicans have consistently voted against extending unemployment benefits to workers who have been laid off because of Bush-era policies and the recklessness of Wall Street. Remember, people who get unemployment benefits -- by definition -- are looking for jobs that the economy doesn't provide. In addition, many Republicans actually believe that the best way to spur employment is to lower the minimum wage.
· Finally, meet Congressman Joe Barton. If the Republicans win back control of Congress, he would once again most likely serve as the Chairman of the Energy and Commerce Committee -- the Committee that oversees the oil industry. Congressman Barton has never met an oil company he doesn't like. In fact, he's the guy who actually apologized to BP when they were forced by the Obama Administration to take economic responsibility for the disastrous Gulf oil spill. As a political matter, that's like apologizing to Jack the Ripper.
These are politically radioactive positions that do, in fact, define the core of Republican policy if they were once again to control the gavel in either House of Congress.
We hear a lot about how Democrats have to "localize" the elections to have a chance of victory in November. And it is true that people vote for people in elections -- and the quality of Democratic candidates will give them a major edge in many races. So while it is a good idea to "personalize" the races for Congress, the last thing Democrats should do is to "localize" them, because the party that nationalizes a midterm -- and dominates the national dialogue -- almost always comes out ahead.
Instead, Democrats need to take the offensive and dominate the national conversation by talking about what the Republicans actually believe and what they would do if they win in November. Voters must be offered a stark choice between Democratic and Republican policies in the fall. If they are, "Conventional Wisdom" that keeps predicting a Democratic disaster will be proven wrong, the same way it was when it predicted that America would never elect a tall, skinny African American guy named Barack Obama.
Read this, it won't change your vote but it may do ya' some good.
Robert Creamer
Dirty Little Secrets the Republicans Don't Want You to Know
The Republicans have a set of dirty little (actually not so little) secrets they don't what you to know -- and certainly don't want you to think about when you go to the polls in November.
And the fact is that some of those secrets could provide Democrats with silver bullets this fall. But first let's recall the context.
Over the course of eight short years -- between 2000 and 2008 -- the Republicans methodically executed their plan to transform American society. They systematically transferred wealth from the middle class to the wealthiest two percent of Americans -- slashing taxes for the wealthy. They eviscerated the rules that held Wall Street, Big Oil and private insurance companies accountable to the public. They allowed and encouraged the recklessness of the big Wall Street banks that ultimately collapsed the economy and cost eight million Americans their jobs. They ignored exploding health care costs, tried to privatize Social Security, gave the drug companies open season to gouge American consumers and presided over a decline in real incomes averaging $2,000 per family. They entangled America in an enormously costly, unnecessary war in Iraq, pursued a directionless policy that left Afghanistan to fester, and sullied America's good name throughout the world.
Their economic policy of cutting taxes for the wealthy and deregulating big Corporations failed to create jobs. In fact, over his eight year term, George Bush's administration created exactly zero net private sector jobs. They inherited a Federal budget with surpluses as far as the eye could see and rolled up more debt than all of the previous Presidents in the over 200 years of American history. And in the end they left the economy in collapse.
This was not a disaster that could be remedied overnight. By taking bold action at the beginning of his administration, President Obama and the Democrats in Congress prevented the financial crisis from morphing into a Great Depression -- but the Republicans, some Democrats, and the powerful special interests have done everything they can to throw sand into the gears of change. Most importantly, they have stood in the way of providing enough economic stimulus to launch a robust, widespread economic recovery.
But notwithstanding Republican opposition, Obama, the Democrats and their progressive allies have -- after a century of trying -- finally passed health care reform allowing America to end its status as the only industrialized nation that did not provide health care as a right. They are on the brink of reining in the recklessness of the big Wall Street banks. And they have set the stage for massive long-term investments in economic growth and clean energy.
But it has been hard to pull the car out of the deep economic ditch and Americans are angry at the slow pace of economic recovery -- and also at the special interests that profited from their economic pain.
So the Republicans now have the audacity to argue that President Obama and the Democrats are somehow responsible for the hardships that they themselves created. In effect they want the election to be a referendum on whether the Democrats have mopped and swept fast enough cleaning up the mess that they created.
They will do everything they can to prevent America from focusing on the real choice before them in the fall elections -- a choice between going backward to the failed policies of the past that caused this catastrophe and a new direction that will create sustainable, long-term, bottom-up, widely shared economic growth. The real question before the country is whether it is willing to hand over the keys to the economy once again to the same gang that just caused the most serious economic pile up in 60 years.
That's where the dirty little secrets come in. It turns out that the leaders of the Republican Party have learned nothing from the reckless escapade that caused so much economic pain, and came perilously close to inflicting mortal wounds on the American economy.
They still actually believe -- despite what we have all just experienced -- that by "freeing" big oil, the insurance companies and Wall Street banks of the "burdens" of government accountability, that the plutocrats and the "invisible hand" of the market will lead American into the promised land of economic prosperity.
Some of the things they believe are not only dangerous to the economy, luckily they are also politically radioactive. And quite remarkably, many key Republicans are actually willing to say them out loud. Here are a few:
· Meet Congressman Paul Ryan. Ryan is the ranking Republican on the House Budget Committee. If the Republicans once again take control of the House, he will be the Chair of the Budget Committee. Ryan believes -- and says out loud -- that Medicare, one of the most popular Federal programs in history, should be abolished and replaced with vouchers for private insurance. Let's recall that one of the ways Republicans stirred up opposition to health insurance reform was by falsely accusing Democrats of wanting to cut Medicare. They convinced some unwitting seniors that "Government" should keep its hands off Medicare -- which is, of course, a "Government" program. Democrats need to make it crystal clear in this campaign that Republicans -- who opposed Medicare from its inception -- actually want to abolish the program and hand over control of health care for America's seniors to the same private insurance companies responsible for driving up rates three times faster than wages while their profits have exploded.
· Congressman John Boehner, the House Minority Leader, has endorsed another Ryan proposal to raise the retirement age of Social Security to 70 years old -- a proposal that might go over fine with a guy like Boehner who makes speeches for a living. But it won't be very popular at all with someone who has laid bricks, or run an earth mover, or waited tables for forty-five years.
· The whole Republican crew wants to resurrect the failed Bush proposal to "privatize" Social Security. The defeat of Bush's privatization plan was the turning point in the Bush Presidency. It was all downhill from there. Yet -- whether it's to pad the investment accounts of their friends on Wall Street or because they are "private markets uber alles true believers" -- the Republicans want to try it again. Only this time retirees won't have to work very hard to imagine what it would have been like if their Social Security checks had plummeted in value the way their 401K's did when the market collapsed just two years ago.
· The Republicans want to weaken and repeal the new law to rein in the recklessness of the big Wall Street banks. Most Republicans and Democrats voted to bail out the big banks to prevent a 1930's style market collapse. The difference is that Democrats supported legislation to rein in their recklessness -- that had cost 8 million Americans their jobs -- and assure that a bailout was never allowed to happen again. But with very few exceptions, the Republicans voted to a person against holding Wall Street accountable. Given a chance, they plan to team up with their pals on Wall Street to free them to return to their reckless ways at will. In fact, they told the titans of Wall Street as much in fundraising meetings, where those "masters of the Universe" were asked to ante up. Republicans claim to oppose more Wall Street bailouts, but they refuse to support legislation that would prevent one in the future and hold Wall Street accountable. That -- coupled with those big contributions from Wall Street -- is a position that is very difficult for average voters to swallow. In fact, the polling says it's down right toxic.
· Republicans have consistently voted against extending unemployment benefits to workers who have been laid off because of Bush-era policies and the recklessness of Wall Street. Remember, people who get unemployment benefits -- by definition -- are looking for jobs that the economy doesn't provide. In addition, many Republicans actually believe that the best way to spur employment is to lower the minimum wage.
· Finally, meet Congressman Joe Barton. If the Republicans win back control of Congress, he would once again most likely serve as the Chairman of the Energy and Commerce Committee -- the Committee that oversees the oil industry. Congressman Barton has never met an oil company he doesn't like. In fact, he's the guy who actually apologized to BP when they were forced by the Obama Administration to take economic responsibility for the disastrous Gulf oil spill. As a political matter, that's like apologizing to Jack the Ripper.
These are politically radioactive positions that do, in fact, define the core of Republican policy if they were once again to control the gavel in either House of Congress.
We hear a lot about how Democrats have to "localize" the elections to have a chance of victory in November. And it is true that people vote for people in elections -- and the quality of Democratic candidates will give them a major edge in many races. So while it is a good idea to "personalize" the races for Congress, the last thing Democrats should do is to "localize" them, because the party that nationalizes a midterm -- and dominates the national dialogue -- almost always comes out ahead.
Instead, Democrats need to take the offensive and dominate the national conversation by talking about what the Republicans actually believe and what they would do if they win in November. Voters must be offered a stark choice between Democratic and Republican policies in the fall. If they are, "Conventional Wisdom" that keeps predicting a Democratic disaster will be proven wrong, the same way it was when it predicted that America would never elect a tall, skinny African American guy named Barack Obama.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
let me just take a nap!
Yesterday, Saturday was a bit of a disappointment. I woke up very tired.
I was in slow motion during the morning. I really wanted to go biking but there was so much else to do that I was absolutely overwhelmed. I was so overwhelmed that I'm planned on the spur of the moment to ask management at the firm if I can take a vacation day next Thursday. That way I can install a window that was broken, BIKE, and take care of other chores.
The morning got worse. MB just got 2 airconditioners and she's got them going on "COOL" and the temp in the low 70s. I took it off COOL and put it on "Energy Saver". I mean, hell, she complained about the electric bill being $200 last month. I told her it would be $300. She said, "That's ok, at least we won't get sick from being hot". Who's been sick?? no one. I was being yelled at for trying to save electricity and money by moderating the air conditioners some. Wouldn't most people like it when their spouse tries to save them some money?? Well, it was good of her to buy us air conditioners. The one we had was old, and it's asking a bit much for expecting that little thing to cool the whole condo.
Then, I paid a couple bills, took them to the post office. My youngest, Brianna, got invited to another birthday party. Honestly, she's only 8 and she has twice the social life that I do. I took her to get 2 birthday gifts (she was going to a birthday party today and just got the invite to the one tomorrow), I did laundry, fixed her sandal, took her to her party. Then I played ball with my son and his friend. & through all the activities, I said, no way am I going biking. It's too much. I was fighting fatigue through the afternoon amid all the stuff I was doing.
I beelined it to the bed as soon as I got done playing ball w/ my son and laid there for at least 3 hrs. But then I got up and watched SNL and futzed around the computer for awhile. Like I'm doing now.
The weekend brings its own complications, b/c I refuse to take Lunesta to go to sleep. No Lunesta makes me go to sleep much much later. Now, I could take a Benadryl to go to sleep instead, but DAMN(!!), do I have to live like fucking Elvis (the one who took a pill for everything he did)!! Then the next day starts considerably later. I was advised by me Dr. not to take Lunesta 7 days a week. & with it's rotten side effect who the hell would want to??!!?? I have "metal mouth" when I take it. I basically have a metallic taste on my tongue and can't drink water b/c that really doubles the metallic taste!
It's like I said before. The Lunesta advertisement is that a purple butterfly flies around benificiently spreading stars everywhere, and people smile and say "good night" and sleep tight. Now, if there was truth in advertising, they would show the butterfly climbing in someone's mouth and leaving a fecal deposit on their tongue.
I'll continue to struggle and hope I bike a helluva lot more this week than last. Oh well, at least, my daughter is happy.
Friday, June 25, 2010
McChrystal, Obama & Looking Past Certain Myths
In the past week, General McChrystal and his staff’s remarks and attitude about the war in Afghanistan and the Obama administration were made public. For Obama’s detractors including many Republicans, the events seem to fulfill the view that Presidents from the Democratic Party should not be trusted with foreign policy, because they leave our nation and the world less safe.
This suspicion against Democratic Presidents goes back to the Vietnam War when President Lyndon Johnson administration was virtually crushed by the failure of that war to keep South Vietnam from falling into the Communist’s hands. The suspicion was further in evidence when President Jimmy Carter ineffectively enacted a grain embargo against the USSR which seemed to hurt the United States agribusiness more than it had any effect whatsoever against the Soviet Union. Of course, anyone who followed the news back in 1980 recalls that President Carter oversaw an embarrassing failure to rescue American hostages in Iran which resulted in the deaths of 8 American servicemen.
Republican candidates effectively used such failures and embarrassments for three presidential elections to win office (1980, 1984 and 1988). However, when we look at the record of Republican presidents, the record is not so clear that Republicans have done a superior job in foreign policy. In October, 1983, President Reagan allowed Marines to be gathered, bombed and killed in a high rise building (against the wisdom that in an area where there are terrorists, it is best to have your troops in different locations to prevent an easy target like all of your troops being quartered in 1 place) in Lebanon resulting in the death of 241 servicemen (which is the largest single day number of deaths in recent foreign policy). President Reagan either lied or deluded himself into thinking that the US did not trade arms for hostages during the Iran Contra Affair. His administration was paralyzed for months as it worked at fending off charges and firing those responsible for such a misguided policy.
Of course, even Republicans and conservatives (like George Will) state that President Bush (the one elected in 2000 and 2004) handled the war in Iraq dreadfully. The inept handling of Iraq after Bush publicly proclaimed MISSION ACCOMPLISHED contributed to the victories in Congress in 2006 and Obama’s landslide election in 2008.
Furthermore, Democratic presidents have handled crises successfully. During the Balkan wars of the 1990s. Clinton supervised military and diplomatic policies that led to minimal loss of troops and forced Slobodan Milosevic (leader of Serbia) to be removed thereby stopping much of the ethnic cleansing in the area formerly known as Yugoslavia. Even conservatives give grudging praise for the way that the Clinton administration made a bad situation better. President Obama oversaw the takeover and killing of the pirates in the Red Sea who took over an American vessel. Furthermore, relations with numerous nations, including our close allies in Western Europe palpably improved when Bush left office and Obama became president. Further, there was near-consensus view among generals that George Bush’s foreign policy left US forces painfully overextended while gaining the contempt of our allies. Anyone who thinks that many general were not appalled by Bush’s failures and misguided foreign policy simply aren’t paying attention!
Some point out that Clinton was responsible for the lapses in security that led to 9/11. However, much of the security breaches and ignoring the threats evident before that awful day were as a result of the FBI and CIA’s failure to share information. It is easy to counter such an argument with the fact that no Republican president would have created better coordination between the 2 competing intelligence agencies prior to the 9/11 crisis. Furthermore, no Republican president acted upon evident threats like what was reported by the CIA in August of 2001.
When we look at the furor over McChrystal’s remarks, the general criticized people in Obama’s administration, but did not criticize Obama directly. In fact, McChrystal could not have been too upset with having his own advice followed when Obama sent 30,000 more troops into Afghanistan. Further, how responsible is it for the general’s staff to get drunk while talking to the Rolling Stone reporter and stating what they really thought of the current administration? When the general himself publicly ridiculed the Vice President,he did so out of ignorance of the fact that Joseph Biden has been one of the foreign policy experts while he was a Senator and was, for years, the Chairman of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee. It’s not as though the current vice president is an empty head or suit like Dan Quayle or Sarah Palin. The General failed to realize that while Biden is skeptical of the military surge, reasonable minds can disagree and such ridicule that should never make the papers but be kept under his hat.
Finally, Obama chose wisely General Petraeus as the replacement to General McChrystal. Clearly, Petraeus will not allow his staff to get drunk with a reporter and spill their guts about what they really think of the current president. General Petraeus has shown proficiency in combating terrorists and guerrilla style warfare. His choice has been widely praised.
Yes, mistakes will be made by the Obama administration, but shouldn't we all acknowledge that foreign policy mistakes occur in Republican and Democrat administrations alike?? The idea of Democrats being soft on terrorists and threats from abroad is an intellectually lazy argument that doesn’t carefully take note of the facts. And there are many facts to take note of. The Pentagon budget is as big or bigger now than it was during the Bush administration. President Obama has wisely followed the advice of his Secretary, Robert Gates in saving the taxpayer’s billions of dollars in failed weapons systems. Democrats have been openly supportive and passed into law the fight against terrorists in Afghanistan. With all these facts, the stereotype of Democrats and their foreign policy is about as old and tired as the stereotypes against African Americans.
Wednesday, June 09, 2010
last night
I received a plaque last night that I wanted to share with all my dear readers. I have been in the St. Damian's Men's Club a little less than 15 yrs. What does the Men's Club do? it gives money to people in need, gives money to organizations at our church that need the money, we get together every month and take care of the business of our club and then socialize, it has done a good job of bringing a group of men from the church together as friends. When either a member or a family member of a club member dies, we go to their funeral and wake. We work at community events and put on a Texas Hold Em tournament (night before Thanksgiving) and that is how we earn money that we give away to those in great need.
I became vice president in 2002. I served 4 terms and two months ago, I was no longer vice president so they gave me the plaque shown in the picture above.
I became vice president in 2002. I served 4 terms and two months ago, I was no longer vice president so they gave me the plaque shown in the picture above.
Tuesday, June 08, 2010
Thursday, June 03, 2010
sometimes it's hard to write regularly
It has been hard to write a new post to this blog, because I’ve been busy with work and certain activities at home, and there hasn’t been an event or subject that’s really inspired me to write.
I should be more upset about the oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico next to New Orleans. I can’t really explain why I am not. Clearly, it’s becoming increasingly worse and alarming. There is a good chance the oil will not stop flowing until about August. There’s even a chance that oil will still be spilling into the Gulf of Mexico into December! !
The spill clearly indicates why there needs to be strong government regulation regarding offshore oil drilling. If an oil company isn’t certain how to stop oil spilling a mile under water, should it really be drilling there in the first place??
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I am mad at myself, because I am biking less than I did last year. Last summer, I biked three times a week and biked about 9 miles each time, sometimes more. This year, I’m only biking twice a week, and sometimes only 6 or so miles. I understand the difference between this year and last. Last spring, I spent over $200 getting my bike fixed. I was very, very intent on getting my money’s worth out of those repairs. I was so concerned about getting my money’s worth from the repairs that I biked well over 500 miles during the summer. (By the way, I stopped biking once I became my son’s assistant football coach and had to attend practices 3 times a week until the beginning of November).
This spring and summer, there is no compelling concern about getting my money’s worth. I started the season spending less than $50 in a few repairs to the bike. Last year, I treated going biking like Church (I would tell myself, “I’ve got to go; it’s WRONG if I don’t!). I just can’t do that this year.
This week, I wouldn’t even be able to bike twice a week because it’s been raining most of the week, and tonight, Andy is graduating from 8th grade. Maribeth & I are happy for him passing this milestone. It’s interesting, because there was an article/editorial in the newspaper about families making a big deal about 8th grade graduation. Even President Obama remarked about over-celebrating 8th grade graduation. There are some families that spend a ton of money on parties, have their graduate strut across the stage like they did something fantastic, and just get too overwrought with it. The editorial correctly noted that clearly, high school graduation and college graduation should be celebrated a lot more. I think the problem is that some of these families are treating 8th grade graduation the SAME as high school graduation. It ISN’T. If you get your high school diploma, you have a very slight, small chance of getting a job. But if you only graduate from 8th grade, you have next to ZERO chance of getting a job, and you definitely won’t be getting a high paying job! !
With Andy finishing grade school, I wonder how he will do in high school. Will he have considerably different problems than I had in high school? Will bullying be a problem?? Two years from now, I wonder if dating will become a source of worry for him? I remember having some difficulty with grades my first quarter in high school. I wonder if Andy will experience that as well. I certainly don’t want him to go through what he went through at the start of 7th grade.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
spellbound.....
Does anyone out there like Harper's Island, the TV show of last summer (CBS)?? I completely stumbled onto the show by accident. I really love this song by Civil Twilight called Letters from the Sky. You should check out
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Wa7dFR09vU
There was a reference to this TV show, and when I was reading about the unreal plot line, I became more and more curious. The plots, the deaths involved were absolutely, positively spellbinding!!!!!! Has anyone ever seen this show?
Thankfully, I saw the more important parts of the show on YouTube. I saved money by not having to buy the DVD. I don't want to get to wrapped up in the show by spending that kind of money, especially since I don't usually like those kind of TV shows or movies. If you're curious, just see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harpers_Island or the official website to the show, http://www.cbs.com/primetime/harpers_island/
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
wow, a new Title
In Chicago, the fire fighters make a very big deal out of fire drills in skyscrapers. Our building was built in 1923 and is 46 stories tall. No one wants to see gruesome deaths by fire, because fire is a very painful way to die, and it's really bad publicity, and, of course, we really hate when people die premature deaths.
For instance, in the past, it was standard in the skyscrapers to lock the doors of the stairwells. Companies, businesses, and law firms were afraid that criminals, people intent on stealing things, violent people would come up to their floor from the stairs and do terrible things. Therefore, they locked the doors. However, there was a fire in a Chicago skyscraper about 7 years ago. Since the doors were locked, people inside the stairs couldn't go to floors where there wasn't a fire and they either suffocated or burned to death. Therefore, the City of Chicago banned locking stair doors.
When you're in a skyscraper and there's a fire drill, you don't have to walk from your floor all the way down to the 1st floor. In many cases that would be walking thousands of steps and going down 20 or more floors. Basically, you go several floors down and the fire fighter supervising the drill tells you how you did. Today, they lectured 2 people NOT to carry their coffee or favorite beverage with them if there's a fire, because first, you can buy another beverage after successfully surviving the fire, and more importantly, you may spill your drink and slow down people walking downstairs.
Before today's fire drill, I was formally given the title, ELEVATOR MONITOR. I am to guard against anyone taking an elevator down to the 1st floor either during a drill or an actual fire. Obviously, if there's a fire, an elevator is one of the last places you would want to be especially when it breaks down or ceases to function due to the fire. So, my office manager exhorted me to be an intimidating presence making sure no one thinks of getting on an elevator (yeah, RIGHT). Then, I am one of the last people to leave the floor (to prevent stragglers from using elevator).
It was pretty funny, because before the fire drill, they gave handbooks out and spelled out the titles of those people who were to help insure a safe fire drill or safe evacuation if there was a fire. & there I was Vince __, ELEVATOR MONITOR. They even listed who my subsitute was if I wasn't lucky enough to be around during a fire or a drill. They even wrote a paragraph with bullet points on what I was to do. I feel so official now (not!).
Wednesday, May 05, 2010
2 VERY SHORT stories
I want to share two stories about government. One is the federal government, and one is Illinois government. They both relate to taxes. Taxes are a very impassioned, visceral subject. To me, it almost seems like the Republican Party exists just to fight taxes, particularly fight taxes for the rich. Well, the last thing I want to do is issue a diatribe so let’s get on with the two stories.
I filed my federal taxes with 1040 EZ. That is the simplest tax form to use. I checked my income figures at least 3 times. I checked the amount of tax I owed 3 times also. I was pleased to be getting a pretty large tax refund, and I filed extra early, about a week before January 31.
When the federal government, particularly the notorious IRS (Internal Revenue Service) reviewed my very simple, filled-out 1040 EZ, they intervened, but not in a sinister fashion; this is not a story about their sinister ways. They intervened by stating that I forgot to claim my Earned Income Credit. Therefore, my refund was $400 more than I thought it would be. Later, they sent a letter explaining what they did.
In one respect, the IRS didn’t have to do that. If they had not intervened, I would have never known the difference. I would have been happy with my tax refund and never gave it a second thought. There have been other stories that I listened to on TV where the IRS has given money to citizens who forget or don’t even know about the Earned Income Credit.
The second story involves an even bigger error that I made. This spring I thought that I filed both my federal and state tax forms. When I prepared my state tax form, I was to get a refund of $4. The problem was that I forgot to file it. With it being well beyond April 15, I am nearly a month late filing my taxes. I went to the Illinois Department of Revenue, in person, and told them about my error. I let them know what I did. I laugh, recalling how they treated me. It reminded me of a little boy going up to a grocery store manager and, in a very ill-at-ease manner, admitting that he stole a peanut. Two of the people in the Revenue Department simply smiled, almost laughed about it. I said if the penalty is giving up the $4 refund that’s fine. The woman looked me in the eyes and said, “oh, you’ll get your refund!” Wow, that is one less thing to worry about.
One other thing to note: Normally, when I file taxes (& I have done so for the last 25 years), I don’t make any errors, so I don’t want anyone thinking I’m a bumbling idiot when it comes to taxes. I even remember back in the 1990s helping Maribeth with her taxes.
These are not stories you are used to hearing when we think about our government. Indeed, there are true stories of government causing an inordinate amount of grief, even injustice to people. This is one time they treated a citizen like me was treated not only with respect but in a kind manner.
Wednesday, April 07, 2010
a happy ending to the last problem
As you can see, my last entry was about a nasty co-worker.
Clare gave her notice that her last day was April 22. My body immediately felt a rush of happiness. Just thinking about it makes me amazed. It's funny how bad you will feel physically being surprised about bad news, and it's delightful to feel good all over when you are pleasantly surprised w/ good news. I wore a quiet, but unmistakeable smile in the office for the rest of the day.
Hopefully, things will be uneventful for the next 2 weeks that she is here.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
it was nice while it lasted
I had a co worker (we'll call her "Clare") who blew up at me. It was the first time I ever had that happen where I work currently. That's pretty amazing, b/c I've worked at my current law firm for over 4 years. I am in the same room/office as 5 clerks. I teach them how to use a software program and how to do discovery (discovery is a long procedure that is done towards the beginning of a lawsuit). I am pretty relaxed and the atmosphere is relaxed too. I can count the number of arguments others have had with another clerk on one hand.
A couple Tuesdays ago, Clare accused me of not teaching her something that needed to be taught to her earlier. I said that wasn't true. She never asked; she then responded that I had a faulty memory. I said, "No, I would remember something like that." At first, the conversation was in a joking, chiding manner. When I didn't laugh with her and simply disagreed with her, she got really angry and said I was rude and demanded an apology. NONE was given (for what????). Then she said, "I am through being nice to you Vince." No response.
Then she said, "The other clerks despise you." I said that was just nonsense. I know how people act when they despise someone else, especially at work, and that's not the way I'm treated at work!! I told her that it was amazing that she was so confrontational seeing as how I helped her so much when she was first starting out. Then she said "What about the help I gave you?" (what help? I'm the one who taught her!). There was only one other person in the office, her friend, when she talked all this trash.
Since then, I have limited my conversation with her to only asking once a week what her work schedule will be. After the incident, there have been a number of times where Clare would whisper to her friend (we'll call her "Jill"). Today, Jill worked next to me and Clare jokingly told the guy sitting where Jill normally sits, "You had to ruin everything, didn't you?" She was not too happy that she couldn't whisper to Jill. So she e-mailed her instead, & Jill would not respond b/c she was working hard.
So, Clare writes a note on a post it, folds it, and gives it to Jill. I smiled b/c it sounded like school (doesn't it??) that she would actually pass a note to her friend during work.
I saw Jill throw away the note. It's now after 5 pm, when most people leave. & I picked up the note and Clare wrote to Jill, "Read your e-mail".
Kind of a shame I wasn't able to find out what the e-mail was. It had to be something if she couldn't tell her out in the open. I needed to laugh and relieve a little boredom.
I have basically resolved that if Clare ever talks to me that way again, I will talk to her attorney/supervisor, and let him know that I am going to the office manager and report her. I basically wanted to give her a break, because she is a good worker and does her work well. The other thing is that I don't completely trust the office manager, and I don't want the whole situation to spin out of control. In the last 10 days, the strategy has worked out well. Yet, I will never think of her the same way again. I knew that she had a combative side to her just by the remarks she made when we got along. So, what she did wasn't altogether shocking. The hope is she will use her intelligence and not allow it to happen again.
There is a part of me that felt proud. I have taught probably over 50 clerks and had those clerks work in the same room as I. In 4 1/2 years, this has been the first time that a clerk has been upset with me (and it wasn't even my fault!). That's a pretty good record if I do say so myself!!
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
VICTORY! (more about this later)
A victory for the struggling working class who have been made poor by rising health costs. A victory for people who could potentially be thrown into bankruptcy (again due to rising healthcare costs), because the health care insurance companies rejected them. A victory for the American people who will save nearly $2 trillion in the next 20 years in Medicare and Medicaid costs.
A loss to the the Republican party and all their followers who have been saying very little but "no" during this whole debate.
A loss to health insurance executives who have piggishly over indulged in executive bonuses and seven-figure salaries. I love the part of the healthcare insurance reform that forces insurance to have 85% of their revenue going to actually paying their insured medical bills (NOT executive bonuses, lobbying & advertisements).
A loss to the the Republican party and all their followers who have been saying very little but "no" during this whole debate.
A loss to health insurance executives who have piggishly over indulged in executive bonuses and seven-figure salaries. I love the part of the healthcare insurance reform that forces insurance to have 85% of their revenue going to actually paying their insured medical bills (NOT executive bonuses, lobbying & advertisements).
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Computer BLUES!
sent my computer into the Geek Squad and they said that it's a hardware problem. It's the memory. So it will be out for a good long time, I'm afraid. My heart just sinks writing this!! :( !
I gotta kick out of Andy. We have a much older computer, and the only way to get access to Internet is by dial-up. But I'm not going to pay the fee. Since Andy has a checking account, he has volunteered to pay the monthly charge for dial up Internet which is only $5 a month. With the work he does in our house, I'm sure his allowance can afford that. He said he couldn't take not having no access to Internet. Yeah, NO KIDDING! He also can't stand not playing computer games too (the reason our computer is getting fixed is he fried our memory trying to download Farm Mania).
So, I won't be able to post very often with no computer at home. I won't be able to do a lot of things. There's a website for Kuma, and they have this awesome Tank game that is set in WWII Tripoli. I was playing that at night when everyone was in bed. Some Satruday nights I didn't get to bed until 3. MB didn't like it, but I said, "Hey, at least I'm not out at the bars drinking!"
It certainly was a fun adrenalin rush feverishly climbing up the hill in your tank & then blasting tanks from 100s of yards away. YEEAAH!
Well, all of that is on hold for a few weeks until our dear computer comes back. I explained to Andy that he is NOT the only one who greatly values the computer. The computer to me is like my baby. I'm as close to that computer as the kids are as close to their guinea pig and new little dog they'll be getting Monday.
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