Thursday, June 24, 2021

Turning corner with money

 I received some very good financial news from a law firm I hired. 


Back in 2017, I grew very concerned about the amount of money I was spending just on interest/financial charges on my credit cards. When you think of someone in financial trouble, you think of them spending too much money, doing vacations, new cars which they can't afford. That's not the case w/ a lot of people and it certainly not the case w/ me.  A vast majority of it was having a car w/ 100,000 miles on it and it required lots of repairs to stay drivable. How do you cough up $400 all at once so that you can get your brakes fixed? 


In 2017, I looked at 1 of my credit card bills that was solely related to car repairs. 30% interest to finance something like $5,000-$10,000.  That's a lot of money.  I tried to go with several programs that would help me borrow $$ at a much lower interest rate. But I was rejected 


About the only place that offered help was Gitmeid Law Office which has a nationwide debt relief program.  I paid them money each payday.  The lawyer went to each of my credit card owners and said, "He is in very difficult financial shape.  We ask that you reduce the credit card balance he owes you from (the reduction is somewhere between 25-60%).  Your choice is simple.  We can guarantee that he will pay ___% of what he owes you.  Otherwise, he may go bankrupt and pay you nothing." Negotiations occur.  When credit card company agrees, they are paid a lump sum (which they like) from the money I've been paying into the escrow every other Tuesday.  
So, I had quite a bit of credit card debt. One disadvantage of the program is the credit card companies go to all 3 credit bureaus and report that I'm only going to pay part of my debt.  Then my credit score goes down.  But that's a small price to pay compared to paying $10,000 a year interest to finance credit card debt. 


They said that I would be finished in about September. But something good must have happened b/c I got done Tuesday.  With the last credit card debt, I owed less money than expected (or maybe Gitmeid came up w/ a better deal than expected).  So I not only was told I no longer have to pay Gitmeid $480 a month, but they were depositing into my bank account nearly $700 (money left over after paying all debts).  




That's good news, happy news.  My problem and reason for getting into debt was that I was not making as much as I needed to make in the middle of last decade. It wasn't from excessive spending. I am happy I decided to go w/ the Gitmeid Law Firm debt program.  If you are falling further and further in debt, you must do something!

Sunday, June 06, 2021

One of the BEST sayings I know & live by

KNOW HOW TO TAKE A HINT

I saw a list of sayings in a magazine back in 2004; they were in an ad for a bank. 

The one that became the most meaningful and helped me the most through the rest of my life was "know how to take a hint."  I remember showing a close friend the saying. She was a woman younger than me. Our relationship didn't end well, sadly enough.  But she read this saying and looked at me and said, "well can you?"  I should have said "no"  or "not very well."  

There are so many misunderstandings in life.  I want to tell you something, especially to the women reading this.  If you have something to say to someone especially if they should back off (& I'm not necessarily saying this about a dangerous situation) and not be so emotionally close, DON'T SEND MIXED MESSAGES. Please understand that some people are dense.  A guy will wish he was with you that he doesn't want to understand or take into account any discouraging or "let's play it cool" hints you send to him.  The last thing you should do is give him any encouragement or even compliments!  DON'T SEND MIXED MESSAGES. You want to be socially graceful and not mean, but any kind of encouragement will necessarily mean a "green light" to him!  Don't give it to him!



When I took this saying to heart, I saved a lot of women who I have come to know a lot of awkward moments.  I learned to take a hint.  When I was really infatuated in an online relationship well over 10 years ago, instead being the stupid "puppy boy" that was encouraged by any encouragement I was given, I learned to take a hint.  I still wanted more out of the relationship, but I read her cues better than I did with any other woman.  & it paid off!  It helped me with the relationship I am in right now with the love of my life.

When I mess up, I can attribute it to not taking the hints that I should have. But I sure am trying.  We all need to be students of life!