There's a woman at my dating service, Chrisian Mingle, who is very, very attracted to me. She said, "I melt for you everytime I see your picture," and "you're the nicest guy I've ever met." Can you believe it? No, I can't either (the 1st quote is definitely less believable than the 2nd one. I mean really, look at the picture I put out in the summer and also this past winter!). I like her and I could see having a relationship with her. She calls and tells me she's not going to be able to wait all the way to Sunday. I can't help but think about all the cleaning I'm going to have to do to my apartment. I can wait until Sunday because as busy as I'll be during the week, I'll barely have enough time to take my apartment out of the "disgusting to be in" category. She speaks hopefully about us being friends for a lifetime. I think that if we are, that's fine.
I'm really drawn to her enthusiasm. If you're a person who had a hard time dating and/or spent many nights alone in your bed, when somebody tells you how great looking you are, what a special person you are, & how sweet and thoughtful you are, well, that's a person you want to be around. When you are starved for some "lovin' " and she excitedly talks about spending most of Monday snuggling with me in my apartment, well....you look forward to Monday too!
Falling in love is definitely the happiest time of a person's life. We were made to love.
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Now, there's a certain benevolent soul out there that has given me good advice when things have gone wrong for me. She has done so on a pretty consistent basis. I am very interested to read what she has to say about this new, more positive development.
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Always boldly giving the conventional wisdom. Yes, there is a risk involved. There is a website in WI that documents a person's criminal history. I will be using that.
you say, "any woman who would offer to come see you at your apt. w/o knowing anything about you, is crazy at best."
False. You don't know this but there are a lot of people out there who are lonely. Who feel bad about their divorce. Who don't know if they'll ever find someone else. Who have gone months without making love.
THAT'S WHAT DRIVES PEOPLE TO TRAVEL 200 mi. to see someone else they don't know very well.
I think you can tell a lot about a person from what they say about themselves. Yes, I know it's a risk, but I hate being alone. It feels very nice to have someone tell you how special you are, that you're good looking, all sorts of things I haven't heard for years.
It is for that reason that I am going ahead with my plans and seeing her & seeing her at my apt. & having her stay overnight.
Yes, it's a risk; it's a risk that you don't even have to contemplate because you are in love with a wonderful responsible man who is also a good provider. But some of us aren't so lucky, Jean.
I am taking a little of your advice and I am, in fact getting to know her on the phone.
On Monday, I'm supposed to go back to work @ around 7 pm. I have jokingly told my co-workers that if I don't show up at work, call the police.
Some of them are taken aback that I have flouted conventional wisdom too; just as you are. Do you want to hear how it turns out?
by the way who is Aileen Wuornos??
if it does turn out bad, I'm not going to go crying to anyone, not even my own blog.
OK, I think I see what you mean. Through a rather strange chain of events, I saw her last night/am. There's a reason that I shouldn't go so fast but not the ones you say. If I go as fast as I am, it very well could lead to heartbreak. You need to create a foundation before you go to the more intimate and intense moments.
Be that as it may. She's still coming. She's a good companion, has amazing insights (you ought to see her religious poems!!), & you know what? We have a lot in common. So let's all take a deep breath & see what happens - readers and "lovers" alike.
Vince...i do have to agree with Jean. Although this woman may not be a killer or a phychotic, she does seem to be somewhat 'needy' or desparate. That is not a good foundation to build a relationship on. You express faith in God, and it seems as if she does as well, but yet you are looking to meet deep seeded 'soul' needs in another person.
I know about lonliness, but yet I also know about fulfillment...and not a fulfillment in another person, where satisfaction and desire are only met for a time. If you are seeking to fulfill a physical need, you're still going to feel lonely at the end of the day. If you are seeking to fill a need for relationship you will not find it in someone who is needy and desperate.
I would love for you to find someone Vince...who stimulates your mind and who encourages you spiritually, and who you can accidently meet and fall in love with.
I'm happy as a lark. I am defying all conventional wisdom and the relationship is moving along at Mach 3.
We went to church. We prayed. Does that make you feel any better? Probably not. We're seeing each other pretty much most if not all weekends.
my younger brother is saying the same thing as you & Jessica. I admire him too, just like I think much of you and Jessica.
all I can say is this: Jean, suppose you were in a desert. You really need some water. You see a lake. Would you be careful because perhaps it's a mirage, or that there maybe people there that hate Americans. I wouldn't. If I was dying of thirst, I'm running not walking to the water. That's all I can say.
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